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Originally Posted September 26th, 2010

Click here to check out this great new website The Pursuit of Happiness

I am THRILLED! You know how I am always on the hunt for a good, quality resource about Happiness. While doing research for Monday’s class (Happiness 101: The History of Happiness) I stumbled upon a new wonderful website called The Pursuit of Happiness. They have many great resources and information including sections about communication, spirituality, positive thinking and frequently asked questions. The panel of professionals is top notch (click here to see their staff) and they are offering a FREE Webinar on November 6th. Please note that it begins at 7:30am Mountain Time. I have already registered and hope you will do the same.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

I share positives on Facebook too. In fact (the free class) Happiness 101 has its own Fan Page. Click here to find out more.


 
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Change is inevitable. Sometimes change is our choice. Sometimes not. Using the serenity prayer can help us to figure out how to approach it. To resist change that is inevitable is a choice. You may find that resisting it may cause you anxiety, frustration and/or anger. Accepting it can lead to serenity, calm and/or peace.

Were there no change, then everything would remain the same. We would inevitably become restless and bored, snug and secure in our blanket of predictability. Change gives us the opportunity to experience challenge and prove once again that we are stronger than we ever thought we were.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

P.S. This post was inspired by the upcoming changes to Happiness 101

What is all this stuff about positives? I’m practicing what I preach in (the free class) Happiness 101. Click here to find out more.


 
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There are a lot of different kinds of super powers: invisibility, elasticity, speed, agility, mind-reading – but I have never heard of someone having the ability to instantly ascertain relatedness.

My wife is from Alaska and she knows a lot of people. Whenever we meet someone that once lived in Alaska – (or even knows someone that did) I watch and listen carefully. Without fail, my wife is able to find some kind of connection to that person within ten minutes. No lie.

This phenomenon happens well in my wife’s case because 1) she is well connected and 2) Alaska is an unusual state. I am originally from the Los Angeles area. If I meet someone new from that area, I usually make no effort to find a connection. Why? Because 1) it has been over 20 years since I lived there and 2) the population of L.A. is FAR more than all the people of the great state of Alaska.

But I would be willing to bet that if somehow we DID have the superpower to see connection, I am sure that the distance between ourselves and “strangers” would be much narrower than we imagine. In fact, I bet it would be more difficult for us to find people that were NOT connected, than it would be to find people of three degrees of separation or less.

Maybe, when Facebook has been up and running for a couple more years, relevance will become more and more apparent. Until then, I can dream and watch my wife work her magic.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

 
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Originally posted September 20th, 2010
As you know, I have been writing my positives here, on Facebook, YouTube and Meetup.com, but last night I read something changed my viewpoint of positives: personal relevance. In the passage, it challenged me to looked at the relatedness of things. Specifically between the paper page I was looking at – and a cloud in the sky. Are they in any way relevant? Yes! Without the cloud, the rain would not fall. If the rain does not fall, the tree cannot grow. If there are no trees, we cannot make new paper. ‘Kind of a “positive” version of the game “Six degrees of separation of Kevin Bacon”. I have been able to find the positive in everything from lint to 9/11 but somehow it really does feel more personal now. Imagine how much stronger the relevance is with people! I have SO much to say about the relevance between people, I think I will save it for a separate blog.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

I share positives on YouTube too. It’s a great place to post positives because they have so many inspirational and uplifting videos. In fact, I have posted one hour’s worth of video which encapsulates much of the pertinent information I teach in (the free class), Happiness 101 Click here to go to the videos or Click here to find out more about the benefits of posting positives.

 
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It was a fast turn around. Our group (Teresa, Julie and Kathy (as observer) were standing right by the runway. Allen and his group were still landing as Cheyenne got off the plane. Immediately we climbed in. Spirits were (pardon the pun) high on the way up. We laughed and joked. Teresa looked out the window a lot. I later found out why: she had NEVER been up in a plane before at all. Wow! Kathy was unable to jump because of an ankle injury, so she opted to ride up with us – and smiled broadly the whole time. Julie said she was excited and smiled a lot, quick to give a thumbs up. I was the first one out the door.

Luckily I remembered to bring my tandem master (Brian) and videographer (Mike). The fall itself is violently loud. I had to breathe through my teeth – otherwise I would get more air than I could handle. I was, after all, falling at a rate of about 130 miles per hour. Time falling is about 60 seconds, which seems like a long time when you start out at 13,000 feet. The drift down is by far my favorite part. Everything is beautiful from that perspective. Brian took me into a couple of hard spins – to the point that my feet swung out almost horizontally (or so it seemed). My wife later said she could hear me Whoo Hooing from the ground. The landing was smoother than jump #2 (I jumped about six weeks ago) and got to watch Teresa and Julie drift in right after me.

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Teresa was ALL smiles and when I asked her if she would do it again, she said “Heck yeah!”. Julie’s landing was graceful and she was just beaming. She said it was a lot of fun and that she was glad she celebrated her birthday with us. Julie’s grandson, Donovan went up with the third plane as an observer and gave it a thumbs up when he returned.
We gathered together all the jumpers and raised our glasses in a toast to Happiness 101. Immediately afterward I gave all jumpers a signed certificate acknowledging that they had “Jumped for Joy” with Happiness 101.
Everyone was very helpful with the clean-up afterwards, which I really appreciated. I also made a deal with SkyDive Utah to get a copy of everyone’s video, so I will be sharing them with you as I get permission.
I want to thank my wife, Debbi, for all of her hard work to make this special day a success. She donated her Saturday to the cause – that’s huge! She packed the car, which was no small feat: a big table, a card table, 16 folding chair, a cooler, a water dispenser, a huge happy face ball and a variety of party favors. She helped set up and tear down. Debbi comforted, cheered, encouraged and celebrated with us. She also played the role of garbage collector and videographer. Thanks, Debbi! I owe you big time.

Next year I am hoping to jump again, except I would like to do it for a cause. Next week is the Walk for NAMI (The National Alliance for Mental Illness). So in 2011 I hope we can do a JUMP for NAMI. Stay tuned.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

To view part 1 of this segment, click here.

 
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Today I acknowledge and befriend the emotion of fear. I recognize that fear has played a very important role in the survivor of my ancestors. Fear made them more alert to possible dangers, which kept them along to procreate and play a part in my birth. I use fear as a warning light on my dashboard, alerting my mind to possible hazard or pitfalls ahead. I recognize fear as my ally, not my enemy.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

Why am I posting postives every day? In (the free class) Happiness 101 I teach about how to be lastingly happier. Writing positives each day is one of the techniques. Click here to find out more.

 
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The National Alliance for Mental Illness (NAMI) started out in someone’s living room – family members gathering in concern about how their family members were not getting the services they needed. They found many, many others who understood their pain and frustration and so their numbers grew and grew. They advocated and educated people with mental illness and their families. Today, there is a NAMI chapter in every state.

Utah has an especially wonderful chapter headed by Sherri Wittwer. She has an amazing team of volunteers. I want to acknowledge Rebecca, Mary, Pam, Susan, Chandra, Spencer, Liz, Kim, Shane and Kerri. These are good people who know what it is like to either have a family member with mental illness or have a mental illness themselves. They fight the good fight every day to make life better for those struggling with mental illness – AND their families. In fact, they offer a support group just for families. They also have a program called Family-to-Family which helps not only to support but educate. Their Bridges Program “brings together people who share the experience and knowledge of mental illness to empower each other with the tools to build bridges of recovery”.

In addition to their many, many on-going programs for adults, children, veterans, families and people who speak Spanish (please check out their website – www.namiut.org ) they have some special events they do each year. Today was the reception of the NAMI Utah Artists’ Project!

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This is something Liz does every year. And though she was great at it to begin with, it just keeps getting better! The exhibit is going on right now through November 6th, 2010. Click here for more info

The other event, you have probably heard of: the Walk for NAMI! It’s you’re in luck because it’s coming up THIS WEEKEND!! NAMI is a non-profit organization so they rely on the walk to finance their good work. Please show them your support by going to http://www.namiut.org/nami-walks
Next year I hope that Happiness 101 will JUMP FOR NAMI! I still need to talk to Sherri about it, but I’m sure she won’t mind (smile)

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

Studies have shown that writing five positives per day can decrease depression. This is one of them. This is just one of the tidbits from (the free class), Happiness 101. For more positives, click here..

 
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Something I talk about quite a bit in Happiness 101 is how there is good and bad in the world and invite students to make a conscious choice as to how much attention they will give each side (and of course the gray in between). I am glad to report that I am practicing what I preach. The Happiness 101 Sky Dive had some really great moments. It also had several challenges. I am going to CHOOSE not to list said challenges because I choose not to focus on the “bad”, but the good. However, before continuing, I would like to say that I learned many, many things from these challenges. So, it would be more accurate to say that I choose not to give these challenges my emotional energy but rather I learned what I could from them, took note of things to do (and not do) next time and move on. Now – to the good stuff!

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I feel very grateful for longtime student, Allen who single-handedly brought half of the jumpers – six in all. We also had three people go up as observers. After we got everyone checked in, we had friends and family gather around and wave posters of encouragement, give high-fives and whoop them up with shouts of encouragement. Because the plane is relatively small our sizable group was split in two. Allen and Paul were beaming with excitement – they had both been sky diving once before. Mindy was a bit nervous but smiling just the same, while her daughter, Cheyenne, rode up as observer. Afterward Mindy reported that the experience was “Awesome!” Paul was beaming after the jump but his beam was markedly brighter. He said he was really glad he jumped again. Allen said the second jump was even better than the first and wants to go again before the month is over.

To see part 2 of 2, click here

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

 
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Yesterday I saw a record number of clients seen in a single day. Today I almost matched it. When seeing clients back to back to back to back, I don’t always have time to eat. Thank goodness for raisins. They are nutritious and keep me going. They are also delicious in oatmeal (which I eat often). So, today I give thanks for these tasty wrinkled treats.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

Why am I posting postives every day? In (the free class) Happiness 101 I teach about how to be lastingly happier. Writing positives each day is one of the techniques. Click here to find out more.

Sep 102010
 
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Originally posted September 10th, 2010
Yesterday I saw a record number of clients seen in a single day. Today I almost matched it. When seeing clients back to back to back to back, I don’t always have time to eat. Thank goodness for raisins. They are nutritious and keep me going. They are also delicious in oatmeal (which I eat often). So, today I give thanks for these tasty wrinkled treats.

~Frank Clayton, Licensed Professional Counselor

Why am I posting postives every day? In (the free class) Happiness 101 I teach about how to be lastingly happier. Writing positives each day is one of the techniques. Click here to find out more.

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