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Happy HulahooperPublished in 1999 in The Archives of Internal Medicine* was a study proving exercise has a positive effect on Happiness. They took a group of men and women over the age of fifty that were suffering from clinical depression. They divided them into three groups. Group A performed aerobic exercise for four months (they took breaks to sleep of course – just kidding – they exercised for 45 minutes three times a week). Group B they put on the antidepressant, Zoloft. Group C they had do both. Surprisingly the group that just did exercise did just AS well as the other two groups! IMPORTANT: This is in NO WAY suggesting you throw away your antidepressants. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS speak to your prescriber before going off of any medications. It can be very dangerous for you to stop taking your medication without guidance. What I am endorsing is that you start exercising and you TALK to your prescriber about the possibility of getting off of the antidepressants. If you feel depressed and are not on antidepressants, still talk to your doctor and/or mental health professional. But please know that regular exercise is possible avenue to alleviate symptoms of depression and is obviously ideal for people who do not like to take pills.

Do some exercises make you happier than others? YES. Research by Ed Pierce of Bridgewater College states that while light exercise or weight lifting is beneficial it is not enough to release endorphins (sometimes referred to as “happy chemicals”). To feel the happy effects of exercise it is recommended to do aerobic workout for at least 20-30 minutes per day at 80% of your capacity. However, the really smart folks at the Mayo Clinic purport that even squeezing in 10-15 minutes per day will give you a great Happiness boost but the effects may not necessarily carry over to the days you do NOT work out.

One of the twelve Happiness Habits prescribed by Sonja Lyubomirsky in The How of Happiness is Taking Care of Your Body (Physcial Exercise). Making exercise a habit or part of your routine is one of the keys to success in this arena. Conversely, variety too is a must for staving off boredom. So, do your exercise at the same time of the day but shake it up – try something new!

Also, it is paramount that you find an exercise that you ENJOY doing! If you don’t like it, the liklihood that you will not stick with it. So, you don’t like traditional forms of exercise such as basketball, swimming or running? Get creative! I have recently taken up the (pseudo) drums – it’s a better workout than I would have thought. There are lots of choices with the Wii to combine video games and exercise. I also recently heard that paddle boating on the Great Salt Lake is becoming popular. What is YOUR favorite way to exercise? Share it with us by commenting on this article.

Finally, my personal recommendation is that everything is better with music and many, many sports can be enhanced with a generous dose of your favorite hopping music.

Of all of this, I want to ask you RIGHT NOW to think of one step that you are willing to make toward exercising and ultimately being happier. No, really. Right now. Please pick up a pen or your make a note in your calendar and write down something you are willing to commit to do in the next three days. Go ahead. I’ll wait.

Frank Clayton

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or dietician. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, specializing in Happiness. I recommend that you always consult your doctor and/or prescriber before making life-style changes.

*Effect of exercise training on older patients with major depression, 159; 2349-56

 
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In the Happiness 101 class, we have a standing home “opportunity” (we don’t like to call it “work”) to do a an exercise that takes 2-3 minutes per day and has been proven to improve people’s happiness. Martin Seligman, the founder of Positive Psychology had a 94% success rate – and that was with people who were clinically depressed! This little, but powerful exercise is to simply write down three positive things per day. It need not be something you did or achieved – just anything positive. Here are some of mine from the last week:
I am glad my friend is still alive
I am grateful for respirators
I SO appreciate the doctors at the hospital
I am thankful for the doctor’s skill
I like the rain
I enjoy the sunshine
I stopped and experienced the wind on my face today
I am grateful for the compassion of friends
I am glad for the hair on my head
I appreciate that I can feel all of my emotions
I stopped and enjoyed watching my cat snore
I am glad my windshield is still in tact
I appreciate the library system
I am grateful that the second to my left pinky toe is healthy, happy and unbroken
I like that accomplished feeling I get after mowing the lawn.

What’s on YOUR gratitude list? Feel free to add something. The more the merrier.

~Frank

 
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Let me first say, that I am NOT a doctor or dietician. I am a mental health therapist, specializing in Happiness. This past week I did some research to find out how food and exercise effect our happiness. There is a LOT of information out there! I’ve always thought of eating right and exercise as vehicles to lose a few pounds and stay physically healthy, but in my research it seemed like a case of the more I learned, the less I (previously) knew.

If you are like me, your eyes glaze over and voices metamorphasize into the voices of adults on the Peanuts cartoons when someone starts telling me about eating right and exercising. So, I’m going to give you the extremely abbreviated version first. Then if you want more, read on. But the crux of the research is that most of the American diet is prone toward depression. As for exercise, it is THE number one happiness booster and can be a major force in fighting depression and being happier. So, eating better and exercise are not just about looking more fit – it’s about feeling better not just physically, but emotionally!

Over the next week, I will write two articles that will explain in more detail the foods that will make you happier but also the exercise that will do likewise (and no, not all exercise releases the “happy chemicals”.

Frank Clayton
Licensed Professional Counselor.

 
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happy sexesI’ve had a few questions about the upcoming Happy Sex Class. Let me set the record straight: this will not be a class that teaches anything graphic. There are plenty of resources for people to find out various sexual techniques. Such proficiencies will NOT be the subject of this class. Instead, we will be talking about the basics we have learned in the Happiness 101 class and how to apply those concepts in the bedroom. This is a unique opportunity because much of the class material has focused on how to be happy as an individual but there has not been a great deal of emphasis on how to be happy as half of a couple. What better arena to do just that than the most intimate part of a couple’s relationship: namely sex? I will strive to keep the quality and quantity of information high while keeping the embarassment factor to a minimum. That said, we hope you will join us Monday at 7pm. It’s $5 per person. Location 220 East 3900 South #7. For recorded information, call 801-262-0317

Frank Clayton
Licensed Professional Counselor

 
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The other “trick” I have used to get through the waiting game of my friend’s rollercoaster recovery has been distract. This is a great tool to use when there is nothing to do but wait. There are some parameters to it though for it to be effective. 1) You should still take breaks from distracting yourself to feel what you really feel. This does NOT mean going down the negative “What if” road. It just means that acknowledging your feelings about the situation are important but I might caution you to not dwell TOO long. 2) Find something that takes enough brain power to effectively distract yourself but not enough to really tax yourself (you’ve got enough stress at that point – don’t want to add more). For instance, my mind wanders a lot when I do a jigsaw puzzle so that would not serve me well to distract myself. A Suduko puzzle however – that works for me. It is important for you to find something that works for YOU (Suduko is not everyone’s bag). 3) When those pesky negative thoughts creep in despite my best efforts, I use mindfulness to be aware of my thoughts and will think (or even say out loud) in authoritative voice “STOP!” and it usually does.
To be continued.

 
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money orOn Tuesday, in my post “Unhappy Meal”, I gave you a pop quiz. The question was this: Which will make you happier, winning the lottery or becoming parapalegic? Dan Gilbert answers this question beautifully in his lecture for www.TED.com. If you haven’t checked out TED, PLEASE do so. It is an amazing site.
The answer is that neither the Lotto winner or the parapalegic is happier. They are equally happy. Feel free to check out the video.

As we have said from the outset, humans are very poor at predicting what will make them happy. Dan’s assertions are backed up by his research and that of Sonja Lyubomirsky. Unfortunately many people feel the same way “Oh, I don’t need a class about Happiness. I KNOW how to be happy.” I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt, but ask you to be honest with yourself. Tonight…. when it has quieted down and you’re laying in bed…. starting to relax…. Ask yourself: Am I really happy?

Though I am the teacher of Happiness 101 and a mental health therapist, when I had that moment, though I do consider myself to be a happy person, I knew (and still know) I could be happier. I am very much enjoying the journey. I hope you’ll join us.

Happiness 101 is a FREE class about Happiness held at my office every Tuesday night 7pm
Address: 220 East 3900 South #7. For recorded information, call 801-262-0317

 
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happy exerciseCan some foods make us feel depressed? The answer is YES.
Conversely, can some foods make us happy? YES!

How about exercise? You’ve exercised for your health, but did you know you were also exercising for your MENTAL health?? Exercise IS the #1 Happiness Booster. Now, do some exercises make you happier than others?

Join us for Happiness 101 this Tuesday night (8/25/09) at 7pm.
Happiness 101 is a weekly FREE class about Happiness! Yes, a class about Happiness. ‘Don’t think you need a class on Happiness? Okay, here is a pop quiz: which will make you happier, winning the lottery or becoming parapalegic? (answer will be forthcoming)

Happiness 101 will be at 220 East 3900 South #7, Tuesday 7pm.
For recorded information, call 801-262-0317

 
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NAMI (the National Alliance for Mental Illness) is an AMAZING organization for people with mental illness. The have a wide array of groups and classes for people with mental illness that are on-going and affordable. They are friendly, patient and supportive. If you have a mental illness they are an invaluable resource. You can reach them at 801-323-9900.

Art is an incredibly valuable outlet for some people with mental illness. That’s why NAMI’s Utah Artists Exhibit is so important. You will be moved by the art you see there. It gives the artists a great sense of pride knowing that they can express themselves and be appreciated for the true artist they are. You will even have the opportunity to buy their work!

The exhibit starts at 9am TODAY (Tuesday August 25th) and will continue through October 10th. It is FREE to get in and held at the beautiful new downtown library 210 East 400 South in the “Lower Urban Room”. Liz Felt of NAMI Utah has done an amazing job of putting this wonderful opportunity together. Great job, Liz, on the “Vision and Voices 2009 Exhibit”. If you have any questions, you can reach Liz at NAMI or by E-mail at liz@namiut.org. ‘Tell her Frank Clayton sent ya.

 
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Frank Clayton before boarding for the skydive.

Frank Clayton before boarding for the skydive.

Have you ever just had a very strong feeling that a shift is coming? A change of the tide of your life?
That is how I felt the morning of July 24th.
I had spent several hours journalling, forgiving and releasing old baggage that no longer served me. I was ready to fly – and fly I did.
I was scheduled to arrive at Skydive Utah (in Erda) at 2pm. I showed up a little early. My wife was out of state. Yes, she knew about my decision to jump. Though she never said she was worried about her husband jumping from 13,000 feet, she did cheerfully insist that I call her right after the jump.
I sat through a 20 minute video, giving all the expected legal disclaimers and exactly how to “jump”. You see, in a tandem jump (where an experienced diver is strapped to your back) you don’t actually jump. You get yourself in position (toes over the thresh hold, grab hold of the shoulder straps (the “chicken wing”) then you let the INSTRUCTOR do the actual jumping. I don’t know why, but I took great comfort in this.
While I waited, I watched others jump. It was an amazing thing to watch. I later learned that some of those gracefully floating back to earth had only earned their certification to do so (solo) that very morning.
I felt a nervous anticipation. Most of my concerns were dispelled when I met “Fish”, my instructor. He was really nice, took very good care of me making very sure that I was comfortable. Fish was from South Africa and had recently married a fellow jumper. He had 3,400 jumps under his belt. I knew I was going to be okay.
As I said in the video, I honestly expected to become paralized with fear at any moment or lose my lunch as the time to jump grew near. Instead, I felt very happy, enjoying the moment. I savored the details. The other people that were preparing to jump. The beautiful scenary. I enjoyed the anticipation I felt before the jump. I would never have another first jump again. So, I enjoyed all of it.
At 13,000 feet, they opened the plexiglass door. The cold air hit me. I watched the others who, without hesitation moved to the door and wasted little time jumping. As each body left the plane, I knew my turn was coming fast.
To be continued.

 
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dieThis week in Happiness 101 we enjoyed a great discussion about luck and what it has to do with happiness. Before going on, please ask yourself these questions:
Do you think you’re a lucky person?
What IS luck?
Do you really believe in luck and what does that mean?
Can a person change their luck? If so, how?

In my happy adventures I have heard many people say things like “If I didn’t have bad luck, I’d have no luck at all” or “that’s just my luck” or “I never win”. Think about these statements. They are frought with language of ill fate. FATE.

How you answered the seemingly benign questions about luck can speak volumes as to your stance on some of the big questions. Do you believe in fate or destiny? Do you think you can change it? If you feel lucky or unlucky, do you have some influence on this?

One of the absolute greatest minds of our time, Albert Einstein said the greatest question we can ask ourselves (there should be a drum roll inserted here – this IS one of the greatest minds saying this is THE BIG QUESTION) is do you believe you live in a friendly universe? If you consider yourself to be unlucky, what does that say about how you feel about the way the universe works AND how do you fit into that universe? How does that belief effect your happiness? It would be easy to see how a person that thinks of themselves as unlucky with no hope of changing that luck, might feel hopeless. This attitude would undoubtedly color that person’s decisions when opportunity comes along.

In her book, Characteristics of Lucky People, Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen describes that lucky people see opporunity where unlucky people see danger. Other characteristics of lucky people are that they work smart (instead of hard), they take an active (rather than passive) role in life, they are willing to take healthy risks, they are assertive (rather than aggressive), listen to their intuition and have a sense of good timing.

A drum we beat a lot in the Happiness 101 class is about making CHOICES that lead us to happiness. Can we CHOOSE to be lucky? Can we change our language, our behavior and our choices to change our luck? Whether your answer is “yes”, “no” or “I don’t know”, I invite you to think about it and do so all the way through until you come to your own answers. When you arrive at those answers, please think about how your chosen stance effects your happiness. If you do not believe yourself to have your choice of luck, I hope you will at least believe that you can make daily choices (big and small) that will increase (or diminish) your Happiness. If you choose not to believe that, I hope you will choose to join us for Happiness 101.

Happiness 101 is a FREE class using empirical research, teaching how to be happy now AND also in the long-term. It’s held every Tuesday night at 7pm at my office: 220 East 3900 South, Suite 7. This upcoming Tuesday (8/25/09) we will discuss the Happiness Diet: how diet and exercise effect our happiness. Call 801-262-0317 for recorded information.

Feel free to comment on this topic. I’d love to hear from you.

~Frank

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